Our body shape has to some degree been at the mercy of fashion through the ages. What seems to have remained more a constant are certain body ratios which seem to still draw us back to the primal instincts of the past.

Countless studies have shown that specific body ratios are found attractive at a subconscious level. For men it is the shoulder to waist ratio, and for the women the hip to waist ratio. So in essence concentrating on changing your body shape to achieve this ratio is going to be far more flattering and attractive than muscles in all the wrong places.

So what are these actual ratios you ask. Well for women a hip to waist ratio of 0.7 is considered the most attractive.

An example:

Waist–hip ratio or waist-to-hip ratio (WHR) –  ratio of the circumference of the waist to that of the hips. This is calculated as waist measurement divided by their hip measurement. For example, a person with a 27″ waist and 38″ hips has a WHR ratio of approximately 0.71.

For men the ratio is between the shoulder circumference, and the waist circumference. A value as close to 1.6 gives the most pleasing results. The value of nearing 1.6 makes for a visually attractive proportional tapered V shape.

To take the measurement for men, take the measurement at the widest part of the shoulders at the height of your underarm. Take the waist measurement at your belly button – divide the two for your ratio.

 These ratios, together with other physical indicators are no doubt inherent primal switches in us all, working at a subconscious level to influence our attraction response to certain people.

So in essence the more muscular stereotype is not necessarily going to be the best way to improve your dating chances, and is in fact just one area to address in your overall persona.