Dateability IQ: A contemporary psychological approach to creating relationships !

DateabilityIQ is about leveraging human evolutionary psychological impulses and instincts, we all possess. Firstly by measuring your own personal attraction via the IQ engine, and then by improving on that score via suggested online training, and available coaching.

What are these impulses ?

We all have common psychological and chemical components. All of which have taken 10’s of thousands of years to evolve. From the neuro chemicals we all possess, to the nebulous concept of the conscious mind.

Those same chemical triggers and psychological structures are leveraged every day by big tech, the games industry, the movie industry, the fashion industry and the porn industry to great effect. Try locking your phone away for a week, or stopping playing your game .. or will you miss the chemical dependency too much. It’s no coincidence all these industries employ psychologists, and sponsor a huge amount of psychological research, to keep them at the forefront of their business.

How does that help me ?

Todays research in psychology has allowed us insights we never had before. The ability to linguistically analyse billions of online conversations, which tells us what you are likely to say, and what you should say to spark attraction, based on the gender type you identify with. To seeing what brain chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin are released when doing different activities, like texting or talking to someone we are attracted to. The short online modules explain the theory, and how to trigger the right chemicals at the right time during various activities.

DiQ is about tackling the negative trends impacting people actively trying to date. For example in 1989, celibacy rates in men & women were 19%, in 2018 that was 23 % ! By now a quarter of young people are not in a active sexual relationship. The trend is predicted to worsen. Presently 1 in 4 men are celibate, and 1 in 5 women. Those are projected to be 1 in 3 for men, and 1 in 4 for men by the end of the decade.

The reality of just concentrating on online dating apps for dating success, is that the figures speak for themselves. Look our for the link to the page giving “The top 5 dating issues” on the results page. Not developing broader skills means you are allowing people to only see you as a one-dimensional dating profile. Let alone not developing the relationship skills needed for the long term.

DateabilityIQ invites you to take the shortened IQ test engine, which has a feedback feature. The results are emailed with an individual profile of personal development training suggestions. The training, teaches techniques that leverage those very same traits, used by the industries mentioned above. The training suggestions are based on your actual dateability IQ score answers. It’s all about the transformation of changing “you” from the inside out !

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DateabilityIQ is about a psychological approach to developing relationship skills.


It’s a scale to measure a persons personal attractiveness, but goes well beyond just the obvious physical.

What is the dateability IQ scale ?

The dateability IQ takes account of how people instinctively evaluate the other person.

Why do I need a dating scale ?

To get better at something, you need to have some kind of yardstick to measure your progress against, otherwise you’re shooting in the dark !

How does it help my dating chances ?

It will highlight your strengths and weaknesses. Allowing you to zoom in on skills you are missing, and apply modern training techniques to improve those skills.

How was the scale put together ?

The scale uses a multitude of in house techniques, that have been tested by real people in the field. Contributions from traditional and modern psychology, NLP, and social and sexual anthropology, have all been put into a dateability IQ engine. The IQ engine then incorporates these principles into hundreds of rules to give you a dateability IQ score.

The painstaking part was putting those “real life intuitive instincts” into a system that could turn that into a score. The team at dateability IQ started by painstakingly breaking down what happens at a subconscious level in the real world, into discrete steps, which were later scientifically turned into rules. The rules could then become a score and therefore a measure.

Lets take an example of one particular characteristic incorporated into our model. Nearly everyone has had the experience of sitting opposite a partner, and still finding their eyes drawn by someone walking by in the background. Despite trying to resist, and not wanting to insult the person they are with, they often cannot resist the draw. Primal male and female body type ratios have much to do with that. Many people use clothing to amplify the effect for maximum impact.

Some examples of gender dating characteristics.

Some of these characteristics are things like the female hip to waist ratios, and male shoulder to waist ratios. There have been a number of modern psychology studies on this particular instinct. Studies on hyperfocus and our reptilian brain, show how we will instinctively pick out objects that meet basic human body attraction characteristics. Knowing these characteristics makes a huge difference to your attraction at the subconsious level.

How Dating for women and men differ ?

The pool of dateability IQ engine tests are quite extensive. For now we have broken the test into a shortened version to give clients an idea of their Dating IQ. A more comprehensive version can be taken by contacting us.

Using the scale to amplify your gender persona, – and therefore multiply your chances.

All of the IQ building blocks within the engine essentially combine for the specific gender type to create a gender persona. Whether that persona is a man who sees himself as a confident self starter with a strong sense of direction and belief in his values.

Or your female persona is a women who is approachable, expressive, intuitive, empathetic, with the ability to communicate effectively both verbally and non verbally. Essentially this site is a fanarchy. In that it operates with people thanks to their feedback. Without it we would not be able to provide feedback content, or be able to refine the dateabilityiq IQ scale we have made available.

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